如果懂得珍惜,就学会放弃

马芙蓉 原创 | 2008-01-26 14:06 | 收藏 | 投票
   记忆没有重量,它却可以压得人匍匐在地,痛不欲生,可以使一个人的灵魂贬值到零以下;也可以鼓舞人在理想的空间飞翔,欣赏鲜艳多彩的风景。有人说:负重的生命或许更有韧性,能更为健康地让生命的价值上升到崇高的境界。在经历一番波澜之后,人们只有放弃想象中的完美,平静地接受现实,才能开始平静的生活。“你有心吗?”那天我听到鱼对水说:“你看不到我的眼泪,因为我在水里.”水说:“我能感觉到你的眼泪,因为你在我心里。”生活中常常快乐要有悲伤作陪,风雨过后往往就有晴天。于是我想说:如果你不爱一个人,请放手,好让别人有机会爱她。当然,如果你爱的人放弃了你,请放开自己,好让自己有机会去爱别人。就象有的东西你再喜欢也不会属于你;有的东西你再留恋也注定要放弃。人生中有许多种爱,但别让爱成为一种伤害。这样,或许就会明白:有些缘分是注定要失去的,有些缘分是永远都不会有结果的;爱一个人不一定要拥有,但拥有一个人就一定要好好的去爱他。就象有个故事说:“男人哭了,是因为他真的爱了、痛彻心肺地爱过;女人哭了是因为她真的放弃了、残酷的现实把她逼进了绝望的深渊。”
Memory no weight, it can be pressed people crawl to the ground,  it can make a person's soul devalued to zero below can also inspire people to fly in the ideal space to enjoy bright and colorful landscape. Some people say: load the lives of perhaps more toughness, more healthy to let the value of life up to the lofty realm. After some waves, people give up only imagine the perfect, calm and accept the reality of life can begin to calm. "Do you want?" That day I heard the fish on the water: "You do not see my tears, because I am in the water." Water, said: "I can feel your tears because you in my heart." Life often happy to have grief However, Liu Shutian, after the storms have often sunny. Therefore, I would like to say: If you do not love a person, free for others to have the opportunity to love her. Of course, if you love your people give up, open up their own, so that they have a chance to love others. Like some things you will not like you belong; some things you will also doomed to abandon the nostalgia. There are many kinds of life love, but love as a Do not hurt. This will perhaps understand: Some fate is doomed to lose, and some never will be the fate of the results; love with a person does not necessarily have to, but with a person must be a good love him. As there is a story: "Men cry, because he really loved, and cardiopulmonary Tongche Aiguo; woman crying because she really gave up, the cruel reality of her approximation of the abyss of despair."

  当然,在生活中,如果真诚是一种伤害,我可能会选择谎言;如果谎言是一种伤害,我则选择沉默;如果沉默是一种伤害,那么,我只好选择离开。虽然没有谁知道你心中的曲折,然而,我们早已习惯去适应别人的需要,让人生的太阳通过别人反射而获得。有时感情让认知陷入了迷惘的泥潭,认知象栓了线的鸟雀而无法象鲲鹏般翱翔蓝天。人人都心中有牵绊,于是,在每一个十字路口,人们都要徘徊,只有拨开人间的烟雾,脱去感情的外衣,“生活,也让别人生活。”用真情注入,事物会变得更加美好,打开心扉让心灵沟通的同时,也遗弃那些曾经错误的认知。“感情是帆,认知是船。”一般说来,当我们爱某一物,亲近某一物时,我们会觉得它特别动人。其实,生活是丰富多彩的,正如在天空的某个高度没有乌云一样,如果你生命中的云层遮蔽了阳光,那是因为你的心灵还飞得不够高。那么,如果你是强者,请不要同情弱者,同情意味着廉价、虚荣与松懈;如果你是旁观者,也请不要同情弱者,你的同情也许是弱者一时的安慰与依靠,但更是他们失败的借口、心安的理由;如果你是弱者,请拒绝同情,失败是因为落后,而落后就要挨打!拒绝同情也就拒绝了迷失,也就意味着清醒,只有清醒的自我认知才能正视自己的弱点,才能拿出卧薪尝胆的精神与韧劲,拼出腾飞的那一天------发奋图强,转败为胜,淌过人生的泥泞。让自己面对失败不要软弱地低头、面对分别不要痛苦地流泪、面对机遇和挑战不要左右难舍!让厚实、成熟而正确的认知在春雨的浪漫、炎夏的骄阳、秋风的利落和冬雪的冷冽中悄然无息地“修成正果”。
Of course, in life, if the injury is a sincere, I may choose to lie if injury is a lie, I chose to remain silent if silence is a kind of harm, then I had to choose to leave. Although you did not mind who knows the twists and turns, however, we are already accustomed to adapt to the needs of others, to life reflection of the sun through the others were. Sometimes emotion, cognition into the quagmire of a confused understanding of the line as the finch suppository not like Kunpeng like hovering in the blue sky. Everyone has the center, therefore, in every crossroads, and people wandering all, only human dispersed the smoke, the feeling of taking off jackets, "life, and let others live." Injected with the truth, things change even better, opening their hearts so that the soul of communication, but also those who have abandoned the cognitive errors. "Feelings fan, cognition is shipping." Generally speaking, when we love one of the, of a close, we will find it particularly moving. In fact, life is rich and colorful, as a certain height in the sky without clouds, if you life in the clouds obscured the sun, it is because your soul also fly high enough. Well, if you are strong, please do not sympathize with the weak, compassion means cheap, vanity and relax; If you are bystanders, please do not sympathize with the weak, your sympathy may be weak and to rely on temporary comfort, but even they fail an excuse for metoprolol; If you are weak, refused sympathy, because failure is backward, and backward is to take! Refused to lose sympathy also rejected, which means clear, only sober self-awareness to face up to their own weaknesses, the White House can show the spirit and tenacity, spell takeoff of the day ------ worked hard, and to lose To win Changguo life, and mud. Do not let their weakness in the face of failure bow, in the face of suffering and tears were not, in the face of opportunities and challenges around the center not! For a solid, mature and correct understanding of the romantic in the Spring, the Summer sun, the Autum wind and  in the winter   cold , the  quietly  in non-interest bearing "thoroughly transform."

  那么在现实中,面对爱情,如果失去你是痛苦,你还怕不怕付出;如果因情迷乱而让你面对无休止的困扰,你会不会选择结束;如果追求是渴望不可及的未知数,你还会不会选择执迷不悟;如果分离是一望无底的深渊,你将要向谁倾诉?很多的人都说:好多事情都是后来才看清楚,好多事情当时一点也不觉得苦。然而很多人却说已经找不到来时的路。为什么我们总是不懂得珍惜眼前人?在未可预知的重逢里,我们以为总会重逢,总会有缘再会,总以为有机会说一声对不起,却从没想过每一次挥手道别,都可能是诀别;一声叹息,都可能是人间最后的一声叹息。是呀,不管步履多么匆忙,在驻足低头凝视的一刹那,情绪就会像潮水一般涌来,满过心尖,把心底那层思念给淹没。是的:有一种爱,清楚是深爱,却说不出来;有一种爱,本想放弃,却无法放弃;有一种爱,明知是煎熬,却又躲不开;有一种爱,早知无前路,心却早已收不回来!在感情方面,女人再优秀也会有被抛弃的可能,永远不要相信什么“他不要我,只是我不够好”这样的蠢话,事情往往是你再好也没有用,甚至问题的症结很可能就是你太好了,让男人产生了压力,他觉得与你在一起不能彰显他的强大,他感到了深深地疲惫,渴望挣脱你的阴影。还有,永远不要相信坚贞这个词是用铁打的,很多时候,之所以坚贞,仅仅是因为诱惑的力量不够大。一直以来,我的思维单一得犹如一杯淡水,通过一段时间的调整,总算才把那些忧伤和痛苦从脑海里赶走。尽管好长时间没有在此留下文字,但还是经常上网去看看那些精彩的文字和精彩的人,感受他们的快乐和伤悲,更多的还是眼羡他们的那份自在和潇洒。当我在感触之中想写点什么的时候,却又免不了落入思维的怪圈。
Well, in reality, the face of love, if you lose the pain, you pay too afraid if confusion because of the situation and let you face the endless problem, you would choose the end, if the pursuit is not the desire unknown, you will come to their senses would choose if separation is a no hope at the end of the abyss, you will talk to who? A lot of people say: Many things are subsequently clearly many things that was not bitter. But many people said to have been unable to find the road. Why do we always do not know how to cherish the present? In unforeseen predictable reunion, we think that the Federation have been reunited, the Association Predestiny again, thinking that I am sorry to say, but never thought to wave goodbye every time, is likely goodbye; A Sigh, the world is likely to last The A Sigh. Yes, no matter how hastily walked in the stop to gaze at the moment when the bow, the general mood will be like tidal influx, for the apex of the heart to the inundation of remembrance. Yes: there is a love, love is clear, but can not tell; there is a love, wanted to give up, but not abandoned; there is a love, knowing it is a torment, but Duobukai; there is a love, not before the alert Road, but has been unable to recover the loans heart! In the emotional aspects of outstanding women will have to be abandoned may be, should never believe that what "he will not me, I just not good enough" This Chunhua, you no matter how good things are often not used, and even the crux of the problem is very possible You very good, so that men have the pressure, and you think that he can not highlight with his powerful, he felt deeply tired, eager to break free of your shadow. Also, never believe the word is unchangeable by Zhida, very often, is unchangeable, simply because of the temptation of force is not big enough. I have always thought like a glass of fresh water in a single through a period of adjustment, which is only sorrow and pain from those minds drove them off. Although not for a long time left in this text, but the Internet is often wonderful to look at the letter and the wonderful people who feel their happiness and Shangbei, more as a share of their eyes envy comfortable and casual. When I think Xiedianshenma feeling of the time, it will inevitably fall into the strange circle of thinking.

  记得很久以前看过一句广告词,说爱情之所以是美丽的,正是因为它是自由选择的。这句话不无道理。一个人爱谁、不爱谁是自由选择的。而选择爱情还是选择物质,又何尝不应该是一个人的自由呢?男人追求金钱叫做追求事业,无可厚非;那么一个女人追求物质,怎么就成了千古罪人,要遭人唾骂了呢?就算是她想用婚姻来换取自己的优裕生活,只要她不是用卑鄙下流的手段,谁又有资格有权利指责她什么呢?大家的志向不同而已。你要你的爱情,她要她的物质,人生姿态不一样,这里面没有对与错是与非的问题。诚然,一个女人可以生得不漂亮,但是一定要活得漂亮。无论什么时候,渊博的知识、良好的修养、文明的举止、优雅的谈吐、博大的胸怀,以及一颗充满爱的心灵,一定可以让一个人活得足够漂亮,哪怕你本身长得并不漂亮。活得漂亮,就是活出一种精神、一种品位、一份至真至性的精彩。一个人只要不自弃,相信没有谁可以阻碍你进步。所以,面对生活中的种种,作为女人的我,常常安慰自己:多点自信、少点抱怨,一切都会好的!
I remember reading a long time ago that love is a beautiful, precisely because it is freely chosen. This statement is not without reason. Love a person who does not love who is a free choice. Choose love or material choice, is it should not be a person's freedom? Men called the pursuit of the cause of the pursuit of money, understandable; then a woman to seek material, and how to become a criminal, to being spurned? Even if she wanted to use marriage to the favourable exchange for his life, as long as she is not obscene by the despicable means, who have accused her of the right qualifications? Everyone's ambition is different. You want your love, she asked her to the material, not the same attitude in life, there is no right and wrong with the non-issue. It is true that a woman can hygiene are not pretty, but must live in beautiful. At any time, profound knowledge, a good accomplishment, and civilized manners, elegant style of conversation, open minds, and a loving soul, and a person will be able to live pretty enough, even if you do not look beautiful in itself . Live beautiful, are living out a spirit, a kind of taste, to a really Zhixing fun. As long as a person does not Ziqi, I believe that no one can hinder your progress. Therefore, in the face of all kinds of life, as a woman, I often console myself: more confident, less complain about everything , all get good!

  尽管很多人都认为:男人在结婚前觉得适合自己的女人很少,结婚后却觉得适合自己的女人很多。可作为女人,其实只要明白一个很简单的道理:男人的自信来自一个女人对他的崇拜,女人的高傲来自一个男人对她的倾慕。并且永远不要栽培你爱的男人,因为你把他栽培的太好,结果只有两个:他从此看不起你或跑了。同时,追求一个人的手法也不需要太聪明,但离开的手法必须聪明绝顶!为爱受伤的伤口是别人给与的耻辱,也是自己坚持的幻觉。因为成人都知道:很多人不需要再见,因为只是路过而已。遗忘就是我们给彼此最好的纪念。爱可以是一瞬间的事情,也可以是一辈子的事情。每个人都可以在不同的时间爱上不同的人。不是谁离开了谁就无法生活,遗忘让我们坚强。象人类这样的生物,仔细一看,原来是伤痕累累的。是否被爱,每个人有不同的感受。而重寻旧梦的代价往往是我们付不起的。微笑吧,因为微笑,我们才会了解爱。“经历的一切,看似不经意,却是我苦心经营,希望你快乐。”你说:“不如送我一双雨鞋。”我说:“不如,你送我一场春雨。那么即使我流泪,在雨中,也不容易被你看到。”

  
Although many people believe that: men before marriage that suited their own little women, but married women feel for their own lot. As a woman, as a matter of fact to understand a very simple truth: men from the self-confidence of a woman on his worship, from a woman proud of her Qingmu men. Never cultivation and the men you love, because you he cultivated very good, there are only two results: Since then he looked down on you or run. At the same time, the pursuit of a person's approach does not need to be too clever, but the way must be left extremely smart! For the love of others injured wound is a shame given, but also adhere to the illusion of its own. Because adults know: Many people do not goodbye, because it is only passing. Forgotten that we give each other the best mark. Love can be an eyeblink things, it can also be a lifetime thing. Everyone can fall in love with at different times to different people. Not who will have no life left, forgotten Let us strong. Such as human biology, a look at carefully, it was scarred. Loved it, everyone has different feelings. And the cost of re-old dreams often find that we can not afford to pay. Smile instead, because smile, we will understand love. "After all, seemingly inadvertently, but it is one I fear, I hope you happy." You said: "I am not sending a pair of boots." I said: "Better, You gave me a spring rain. Even if I shed tears, rain, it was not easy but you see. "
     从此,让我们于千万人之中,遇见你想遇见的人;于千万年之中,时间的无涯荒野里,没有早一步,也没有晚一步,刚巧赶上了。当然,如果雨后还是雨,如果忧伤之后还是忧伤,请让我们从容面对这离别之后的离别。微笑地去寻找一个不可能出现的你!因为爱情是残忍的极致,人们认为悲苦、甜蜜、心痛、快乐的爱情到最后总是美的。其实能让婚姻给爱情提供一个住所,又会是怎样的呢?爱情开始接受生活里的一切:苦痛、磨难、背叛,一点点汇聚的琐碎。能有幸经过一生的风风雨雨,到两鬓斑白,白发如雪时,两人的生命烛火终于开始慢慢熄灭,爱情也就变成为支离破碎的誓言。这时,就出现一个问题:谁先离开谁,谁最后留下。当然,也有人出其不意的离开,有人扔下几句劝慰的话撒手而去,有人在苦痛中折磨着自己也折磨着别人,最后折磨够了—驾鹤西游。而留下的人呢?一遍遍的回忆共同牵手走过的日子,回忆爱情的发源,发展,终结。最后在爱情的余波中走向墓地。所以就有人认为这是一种精致的残忍。精致之处在于爱情终于得以圆满发展,想爱的人和爱自己的人终于陪自己走完一生。残忍之处在于:当爱情成为一种无法剥离的回忆、完全和生活的点点滴滴融合在一起时,一切就碎了,他和她在支离破碎中品尝爱情潜藏的痛苦与残忍。又或者:精致在于——虽然没有牵手到老那么令人向往,却也毕竟有了一段珍藏于心的美好回忆,可以在这样的美好里一遍遍的独自意会。而最大的残忍却在于——这样的结局不是任何人都想要的,偏偏任何人都要去接受,不管是被迫,还是自愿。当我们在高叫着“真心爱过就好”的时候却故意省略了这样一个千年的疑问:真爱真的是牢不可破吗?若破还是真爱吗?没有结局,也没有将来。它们永远保持了爱情的鲜度。也总是在让人知道后,让他们留下凶猛而精致的眼泪。这算不算是一场完整的爱情?就像看一幅世间最美的图画,在最美的地方却什么都没有,一切都被切断,只有回忆没有将来。可这样的爱情仍还会有痛,因为回忆,因为想念,因为不能比翼双飞而产生的痛。
Since then, we are in the tens of millions of people, met you want to meet the people in thousands of years, the time Moya wilderness, there is no early step, no later step, happens to catch up with the. Of course, if after the rain or rain, or if the sadness after sadness, please let us face this calmly leave after the departure. Smile, it is impossible to find one of you! Because love is the ultimate cruel, it was felt that misery, sweetness, heartache, happiness always love to the last United States. In fact, marriage can provide a home for love, what will? Love life, start all: pain, suffering, betrayal, a little highlight trivial. After a lifetime to honour the ups and downs, and to Liangbinbanbai, white hair as snow, the two lives Chonghuo has finally started slowly extinguished, and love would be used for the fragmentation of the oath. Then, on the emergence of a question: Who left the Who, who finally left. Of course, the departure of some surprise, it was dropped a few shoulders then give them away, someone in pain afflict themselves afflict others, the final tortured enough - riding crane West. The left? Again with memories of common hand through the day, the memories of love origin, development, and end. Finally, in the aftermath of love toward cemetery. So some people think that this is an exquisite cruelty. Exquisite love is finally to the complete development, to love and love their paternity finally completed their lifetime. Cruel lies in the fact: When love becomes a memory can not be separated completely and the little drops of life together, everything broken, and he and her taste in the fragmentation of love hidden suffering and cruelty. Or: Exquisite is - Although there is no hand to a yearning for old then, but it also has, after all, a section of the collection in mind fond memories can be so beautiful, again with the Tacit alone. And the largest cruel lies - this is not the outcome anyone wanted, but why should any person to accept, whether it is forced or voluntary. When we are chanting "sincere Aiguo like" when it deliberately omitted such a millennium doubt: love really is unbreakable? If the break or love? No outcome, no future. They always maintained a love of freshness. Always people in the know, so that they leave violent and sophisticated tears. Is this a complete love? Like to see the most beautiful picture of a world in the most beautiful places but there is nothing, everything was cut off, not only memories of the future. Love can be such a pain there will be still because memories, because I miss, because we can not follow ,  the pain.


  既然开始与结果都是残忍的,而我们注定了要去爱。那不妨把这种残忍包装得更精致些,更浪漫些呢!因为人世间的“幸福”,总会令人好看一点,虽然并不是我们每一个人、时时都能认可的,但只要在世事适当的时候降临时,我们也会有适当的心情去迎接它的。

Since the beginning and the fruit are endure, but I was doomed to go. That might as well plants endures package of finer, more romantic! Because world “happy”, is attractive one, however is not my each person, can be possible, so long as but falls in the humans affair suitable period of five days, I also have the suitable mood to greet it.

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